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Something I’ve been thinking about a lot, recently. People get turned on by a whole host of things; I bet there’s a SubReddit somewhere of attractive rocks (if you find it, link me in a comment!). But, despite it being “modern” times and sexuality being considered rather liberal right now, I’d still say a lot remains unconfessed. During sex, aside from the old vanilla in-out-in-out (which I’m still adamant doesn’t really exist. There are no completely vanilla people, just shy ones.) you often have to read between the lines and work out what your partner is trying to tell you. Sometimes, they can’t even tell themselves. Hard, right? To be honest, just congratulate yourselves that you’ve made it to eye-contact level. Sex is hard.
Quite often, people communicate their fantasies through language. Basic dirty talk- “fuck me!”, “I’ve been a bad girl, what are you going to do to me?” simply expresses all the energy people want to feel through sex that they don’t always experience. It’s what they think about when they’re masturbating, and hope that one day, if they’re hot-shot lucky, they might find a partner that fits the bill without them ever having to ask for it. It’s that’s wonderful (no, hideous) debilitating British fear. Because there’’s nothing worse than opening up to the person you’re buried inside, or have literally taken into your body. Right. Right?
So. What about all that animal lingo that gets people off? Ever had a dirty fantasy about that ‘stallion’ of an investment banker you see in a bar every week? Ever secretly wanted to be fucked like a bitch in heat, the back of your neck bitten as a dog takes you? In this sense, the erotic animal edge isn’t literal - you're not a furry and nor are you really getting wet thinking about a dog penis. (Both things are perfectly fine, by the way. As long as nobody- no human or, especially, animal- is hurt, there is absolutely nothing wrong with any of it.)
In a world that is being increasingly complicated for the human psyche, sex becomes simplified.
At the risk of getting too clinical, animalism is a psychological liberation. You’re not longer Sandra from HR or Ben the lorry driver. You’re pure lust, caught up in that moment of just needing to fuck. A lot of it ties into impregnation fantasies- another thing that’s perfectly normal and when you think about it, entirely rational. It’s an evolutionary trait to find the idea of sowing your wild oats or being mounted appealing. Otherwise humans would never get anywhere! Sex doesn’t have to be the social duty it has, for a lot of people, become. It can be reverted back into it’s natural state; the unquenchable, undefinable urge to mate. In a world that is being increasingly complicated for the human psyche, sex becomes simplified. You don’t have to think about anything else. And that’s how all sex should be, not just animalistic fantasies.
It’s connected to D/s and rape fantasies, too. In a study done in 2008, it was revealed that, amongst other things, 52% of 355 women surveyed reported fantasizing about being forced into intercourse, and 32% said they were erotically raped by a man.
There’s just something exciting about the idea of taking a normal, well-behaved man and pushing him to a point where he forgets to be gentle, forgets to care, and just needs to be inside you until he comes. And for submissive men; dogs are loyal. Dogs are pets that are obedient, and cared for. Dogs are ruled by their instincts and their desire to please their masters. Masters that can be strict, and clear with what they want and their willingness to punish bad behaviour- but also kind, loving and protective. If you reduce a submissive man to this level, calling him a dog to his face, he might readily embrace it, or need to be humiliated- he’s a dog for wanting to lick your shoes, pussy, arsehole. Whatever. I’ve always thought the dominance and submission differs between the genders on a psychological versus physical level, and I think animalism really highlights this. For both it’s the awareness of hierachy; women, that their place is to be fucked, taken, mounted, bred, any of the above. For men however it’s a more emotional thing; the desire to please, or the desire to be ridiculed for their base desires. Obviously the inverse works for the dominant-inclined; men wanting to take their bitches (because who doesn’t want their own personal harem, lads?) and women wanting ownership.
The term “stallion” for example. For some that know anything about horses (some who use the term might not, I’ll admit) it obviously speaks to voyeurism. Horses being covered are always filmed to prove the pedigree of the offspring. There’s usually one or two people holding the mare, one leading the stallion and one filming. That’s a lot of people watching two animals fuck. There’s the element of restraint on the mare’s part (hello, gang-rape fantasies) and the primal connection the horses exhibit when they notice each other is palpable, electric. Once that guy sees his mare, the man holding his head collar isn’t going to be able to stop him charging forward. And, of course, if you’re calling your man a racehorse in the bedroom he’s probably powerful, sweaty and has a lot of stamina. All very masculine traits that are, for most men, rather enjoyable to hear coming out of the mouth of the lady they’re inside.
Another thing to add would be the feature that belongs to both dogs and horses- “breaking in” or “training”. Pretty simple to discern; the presence of a controlling figure. The taking of innocence/purity- it can be quite arousing to think of yourself as having broken in a sweet little virgin as you’ve shown them the ways of sex. Unlocked their potential, trained them to recognise your body’s signals and desires, until they know how to please. Finding a way to contain all that wild energy; the idea of liberating that coming back to what I mentioned earlier, about primal strength during sex.
All in all, pretty reasonable, logistical behaviour for a human to exhibit- we are animals, after all. Hopefully that’s highlighted the basics and helped you understand that just because someone gets off on the animalistic doesn’t mean it’s taboo, or something to feel guilty about. Let’s not allow ourselves to feel guilty, okay? It’s damaging and more importantly, futile. You’ll have the desires either way and, whilst a little bit of guilty naughtiness is fun, shame and embarrassment with who you are isn’t okay. So have fun with doggie-style, it is one of the highest-rated positions for a reason.
These are, of course, my opinions; if you disagree or have more to add, tell me!
G.